The most common reason of all is Broken Trust...
One small lie, one small
mistake can make the other person loose faith in you. Once the trust is lost,
it cannot be fixed even if you apologize a thousand times...Thereafter you’ll never
be believed by your partner. Broken trust is so hard to be rebuilt.
Being reluctant
to change your
attitude for him/her…
It’s true that it’s hard to change things you've been used to and you might
think “Should I change for someone else?”...Yes. What is the point of your
relationship if you are unwilling to do such a little sacrifice? Though it’s been
said to love a person for who he is, that is kind of impossible. Two
people cannot be together when they hate each other’s habits or various behaviors...Right? So you should
try to change those unloved acts . Both
should contribute enough in this matter.BUT, don’t try to make your partner a
completely different person!
Listening
Half...Reacting Double
Whenever you both have an issue, try out a discussion. Find solutions
together. Get over it before the day ends. LISTEN to what each has to say and
arrive at a conclusion. Continuous arguments don’t do any good. Be logical.
Don’t keep arguing if there’s enough proof that you are wrong. Let go of your ego,
accept your faults and promise not to do them ever again
Being a control-freak
He who has lost freedom has nothing left to loose”…So
it’s not strange that relationships with such over-control end soon. No one is
ready to give up one’s freedom for another person. When in a relationship, you
can’t have the freedom you had when you were single. Under certain reasonable
circumstances there has to be some control. True! But, still your partner is
supposed to enjoy his/her life.There are guys who don’t let their girls hang around
even with their girl friends. There may be such girls too. Some don’t let their
partners talk with those of the opposite gender, and thy even try to make them stop
Facebooking and etc. This is utter stupidity. If you can trust each other,
giving freedom is not at all a big issue. But, both should know each other’s
limits!
Stop complaining
Your partner might have a lot
of mistakes, and you are not perfect either. If he/she does something wrong, don’t
yell at him/her. Take it easy and try to explain it. Tolerate and FORGIVE when
he/she understands it (but not when the same mistake is done repeatedly).Once
you forgive, don’t blame your partner any further for the same mistake.
If you blame him/her without any reason or if you try
to put the blame on “your partner “for “your” faults, you are
again on the wrong track. He/she might tolerate and accept that it was his/her
fault for the sake of your love.But, if you take advantage of that tolerance,
once that person is fed up with it, it’ s not going to be easy to get them back
to how they were.
Hiding your emotions, feelings
This weakens the bond between you
two. You must share how you feel for each other. Be honest. Appreciate each
other’s little efforts to make the other one happy. Underestimating makes
him/her feel down and he/she will slowly drift away
Not caring for each other
Do n’t just say it, show
that he/she is the most valuable thing you've got and don’t hesitate to let
others know he/she is your partner. Give them every possible thing they expect
from you. Don’t be selfish. Remember that you’ll be treated the same way you
treat your partner.
Simply have a better understanding between the two of you,
If you want a long
lasting, never ending relationship
written by: Dinithi Kariyawasam
Great work girl...!!
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